How To Enter Your Grown Woman Era

By DeAndrea Douglas
how to enter your grown woman era

As you enter your late 20s and early 30s, you begin to enter a new phase of your life. Gone are the days of college parties, clubbing, and low-quality relationships–or at least you want them to be. You’re ready for a change and for a lifestyle that reflects a new version of who you want to become. You’re ready to enter your grown woman era and fully embody the woman you want to be. Here’s how to make it happen.

Define What Being a Grown Woman Means To You

As you step into your grown woman era or feel drawn to stepping into it, you should decide what your ideal self is like. There are so many different versions of what being a woman is and that’s the beauty of it. There isn’t only one correct way to be. You have to know what your idea of a grown woman is and what you think her life is like. You can study other women and their traits to see which ones you’d like to embody.

You can take cues from a lot of places. One of my favorites is the Bible since one of my aims is to be both Godly and beautiful. Proverbs 31 breaks down a Godly woman’s characteristics, her values, and how great of a woman she is. I love studying other women in the Bible and how they have shown incredible faith. You could also read memoirs and biographies of influential women, and read fashion and style blogs by women who fit your vibe.

It’s important to reflect on the traits you want to have regardless of where you get them from. Journaling about your journey and what you’d like to experience can help you get more specific about what you want your life to be like and understand which characteristics you’d like to work on. Because of the abundance of choices you have, it could take some time to figure out what being a grown woman means to you.

Make an Effort Every Day to Look Put Together

This doesn’t have to be a huge production. You don’t have to wake up every morning and put on a full face of makeup. You should take every day as an opportunity to show up as your best self. Every woman who is entering this season or who is well into this season of her life makes an effort to look put together and effortlessly beautiful.

I work from home so no one sees me from the waist down and most days no one sees me at all–but I see myself. Since I started putting a little more effort into my appearance my self-esteem and energy throughout the day majorly improved. I love looking good, even if I’m the only one who sees it. And when people do see me I get compliments and who doesn’t love getting compliments?

Putting effort into your appearance means you get to show up as your most confident self every day–even if it’s just for you to admire. You’re telling yourself you are worth the time and energy it takes to be your best.

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Practice More Self-Care

Practicing more self-care has changed everything for me. It has helped me step into being a lot more feminine overall. Self-care can mean a lot of different things. Again, it’s about defining what self-care means to you and figuring out what makes you feel taken care of and relaxed.

I like loving on my skin with additional treatments at home or a spa, painting my nails, taking everything showers, journaling, and practicing yoga as part of my self-care routine. I make sure I have nourishing meals planned for myself throughout the week and might enjoy a glass of wine or a cocktail midweek as a treat and I also set aside time every Sunday to spend time with myself to make sure I’m ready for the week ahead.

Self-care for you could be spending a Saturday in bed, cleaning your entire house, taking the kids to a relative so you can spend the day only concerned with yourself, going on a date with your significant other, or taking a walk. The only requirement for self-care is that it is supposed to energize you, relax you, make you feel at home with yourself, and fill your cup, not empty it.

Raise Your Standards

As you enter your grown woman era, it’s important that you elevate your standards and set boundaries. Take stock of your circumstances and the people around you and ask yourself, “Is this serving me? Is this serving the woman I want to be?” If not, you need to make some changes to your current standards to be on par with who you want to be.

Raising my standards is the part that took (and is currently taking) the most effort. As I continue getting a clearer picture of the woman I’d like to be I have to learn new habits and change how I think about things. It’s why I learned to take better care of my finances and stopped knowingly buying cheap clothes. I’m worth the effort of staying on top of my finances and worth the price of higher quality clothes. Elevating my standards and expectations also shapes my approach to work. I deserve a life of peace and getting to do work that doesn’t crush my soul. This makes me be more intentional with the things I say yes to.

Raising your standards can be difficult but it will never be a mistake. Higher standards serve as a protective boundary to repel the things that don’t serve who you want to be and a way to open your heart to the things that truly matter to you. So whether it be with friends, with family, or with your romantic partner, a grown woman understands that she can never go wrong with elevating her standards. The same thing is true for the food she eats, the clothes she wears, and even where she lives. Elevating your standards in all aspects of living is never a bad decision.

Embodying Your Grown Woman Era & Energy

You’re always going to be a work in progress. A true, everlasting transformation requires you to break down the very structure of your belief system and rebuild it in a new and improved form. Becoming the grown woman you want to be will take time. You won’t get everything right the first time and you’ll change your mind about traits or qualities that once seemed important to you. As long as you keep working on embodying who you want to become you’ll look up one day and realize that you are her.

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