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17 Simple Ways To Build a Magnetic Personality

By DeAndrea
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Have you ever met someone who seemed to effortlessly captivate everyone around them with their radiant energy and charm? Someone who, despite being friendly and considerate, still commanded respect and admiration? This is a perfect depiction of a magnetic personality. It is a charismatic blend of poise, charisma, and kindness that is wonderful to behold. Now, wouldn’t you want to exude the same magnetic charm? This fascinating skill is not exclusive to a lucky few; it can be honed and mastered. Simple strategies can help you weave this enchanting charm into your own personality, drawing people towards you with your elegant energy, as you harness the power of a truly magnetic presence.

What Is the Power of Having A Magnetic Personality?

Having a magnetic personality can open doors to new opportunities, both socially and professionally. It can help you build strong relationships, advance your career, and leave a positive impact on everyone you meet.

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How To Have a Magnetic Personality & Radiate Elegant Energy

1. Use positive body language

Did you know that most human communication is nonverbal? Even when you aren’t speaking, your body language is saying a lot so make sure you use body language that is welcoming. Positive body language will help you connect better with others, and it will also make you more appealing. These are a few ways that you can make sure your body language is perceived as positive so you can be as magnetic as you’d like.

Practice Good Posture

Elegant ladies understand the importance of good posture and body language. For instance, checking your watch while someone is speaking can give the impression of boredom, while crossing your arms signals that you’re closed off. Practice sitting like a lady and walking with proper posture to communicate that you think highly of yourself enough to care about these small details. Women with magnetic personalities typically have upright and open postures that are relaxed and confident. They avoid slouching or crossing their arms, which can make them seem unapproachable. To increase your magnetism, make sure you’re minding your posture to look more confident and approachable.

Smile Often

Women who are magnetic understand the power of a smile. Smiling not only makes people feel good but also indicates friendliness and happiness. You don’t have to walk around smiling all the time like an insane person, but when you’re open to communicating and getting to know people a smile can go a long way.

Be Expressive & Gesture Openly

Magnetic ladies are known for being highly expressive, using their facial expressions and body language to convey their emotions and thoughts. They understand that this helps them to connect more deeply and authentically with others. To increase your own magnetism, it’s important to express yourself freely and respectfully.

2. Be genuine

Authentic people don’t try to put on a show or be someone they’re not. They are comfortable just being themselves because they know trying to fake a personality or trait that they don’t have isn’t the best thing to do. People can spot fake personalities and are repelled by them so just be you. Polished, graceful, and classy, but still authentically you.

3. Speak elegantly

Mastering elegant speech is key to being magnetic. Elegant speech doesn’t mean you can’t speak your mind, but it does mean that you communicate with kindness and consideration. A woman can be impeccably dressed and horribly impolite. As the saying goes – you’ll catch more flies with honey than vinegar, so make sure you know how to speak elegantly to draw the right people to you.

4. Be Aware of Your Tone & Use Positive Language

Your tone of voice has a lot of power to influence how other people perceive you. You don’t want to approach the person who speaks condescendingly or sounds disgruntled. To be more magnetic adopt a warm, pleasant tone, and consistently offer praise to cultivate more engaging relationships and increase your general appeal.

5. Have a Good Sense of Humor

Having a good sense of humor can make you more magnetic because it allows you to connect with others in a lighthearted and enjoyable way. When you can laugh at yourself and don’t take yourself too seriously, you become more approachable and relatable. People are drawn to those who can bring laughter and joy into their lives, and a good sense of humor can help you do just that. Additionally, humor can help diffuse tense situations and create a more positive and relaxed atmosphere, making it easier to build relationships and leave a lasting impression.

6. Be Interesting

Being interesting can make you more magnetic because it sparks curiosity and draws others to you. When you have diverse interests and hobbies, you have a wealth of experiences and stories to share, making conversations more engaging and dynamic. Hobbies not only showcase your passions but also demonstrate that you are a well-rounded person with depth and personality. Whether it’s a unique skill, a fascinating travel experience, or an in-depth knowledge of a particular subject, having interests outside of work or routine activities makes you more relatable and intriguing to others. This richness of experiences and knowledge not only makes you more interesting but also helps you connect with a wide range of people, enhancing your magnetism.

7. Be a Good Storyteller

Stories have a powerful impact on human connection and engagement so being a good storyteller can make you more magnetic. A compelling story captivates the listener, drawing them in and creating a shared experience. Through great storytelling, you can share your experiences, values, and emotions in a way that resonates with others, making you more relatable and memorable. A well-told story can inspire, entertain, or even teach, leaving a lasting impression on those who hear it. Also, storytelling can help you build rapport and foster deeper connections with others by creating a sense of intimacy and understanding. Overall, being a good storyteller enhances your charisma and makes you more compelling to be around.

8. Be a Good Listener

Being a good listener can make you more magnetic because it shows that you value and respect others’ thoughts, feelings, and perspectives. When you actively listen to someone, you demonstrate empathy and genuine interest in what they have to say, which can help build trust and rapport. People are naturally drawn to those who make them feel heard and understood, and being a good listener allows you to make them feel just that.

9. Be Friendly & Outgoing

Ladies with magnetic personalities are friendly and outgoing. When you approach others with warmth and openness, you make them feel comfortable and valued, which can lead to deeper connections. Your friendly demeanor can also make you more approachable and memorable, as people are naturally drawn to those who exude positivity and friendliness. Additionally, being outgoing allows you to easily engage with others and initiate conversations, making it easier to build relationships and leave a lasting impression.

10. Be Kind, Even if That Energy isn’t Being Reciprocated


The most elegant and magnetic women are those who maintain grace under pressure. Whether facing a customer service challenge, a line-cutter at the grocery store, or a frustrating neighbor, these women exude a composed demeanor. Their elegance shines through by rising above toxic energy, and refusing to engage in petty behavior. They demonstrate emotional maturity by handling tough situations with poise, showing that true elegance lies not in proving a point but in staying true to oneself.

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11. Pay Attention to the Little Things

Paying attention to the little things can make your personality more magnetic because it demonstrates attentiveness and care. People who have a magnetic personality understand that small gestures and details can have a significant impact on others. For instance, making an effort to listen actively and remember details from conversations, shows that you value the person’s thoughts and feelings. Being sensitive to other people’s emotions and offering support and assistance when needed also shows a level of care and respect that people appreciate. By being attentive to these small aspects, you can cultivate a reputation for being caring and thoughtful, which naturally draws people to you.

12. Be Elegant on Social Media

Social media allows us to act like an entirely different person online than who we are in real life. The content you share and how you interact with other people online directly reflect your character. To have a magnetic personality your online presence and real-life personality should be aligned. Consistency between the two shows that you are genuine, sincere, and have integrity.

It is also worth noting that you don’t have to be on social media, even if it seems like everyone else is. If it’s taking too much of your time or makes you feel bad about yourself it’s okay to log off.

13. Make Eye Contact When you Speak to Someone

When someone isn’t making eye contact with you, you’ll tend to think that they aren’t trustworthy or are trying to hide something. Eye contact is an important part of positive body language and for this reason, people with magnetic personalities make eye contact with whoever they’re talking to. People are not drawn to people that they don’t think they can trust.

14. Be a Team Player

If you’ve been in the workforce long enough or have done enough class projects you’ll know that there is usually someone who is difficult to work with or doesn’t pull their weight. Make sure that person isn’t you. Nobody likes the person who makes the environment toxic or causes drama.

15. Master Table Manners

You can be a joy to be around but be an absolute slob at the dinner table. You should at least have the basics of table manners mastered to be more magnetic. Chew with your mouth closed, don’t talk about things that are polarizing or disgusting, and when eating with your hands is okay are a few skills you need to be on top of. Not having proper table manners can put people off, making them not want to “enjoy” another meal with you. That’s the opposite of magnetism.

16. If You Can’t Say Something Nice, Don’t Say Anything

People notice when you are gossiping about other people and expect that you will gossip about them too. They won’t trust you or your intentions when you are conversing with them. Don’t speak negatively about people or things even if you are talking to a Negative Nancy. You don’t have to go low just because they are.

I’ve been hearing this my whole life, but I appreciate it much more now that I teach modern elegance. Don’t spend time in conversation speaking negatively about people or other things.

Speak with intention and be positive. We all want to be around people with a positive attitude.

17. Look on the Bright Side

Ladies with magnetic personalities are always positive and optimistic. They know that being positive is the best way to be. They never let negative thoughts weigh heavily on them and they can always find a silver lining in any situation. If you want to be more magnetic, make sure you learn how to see the glass as half full. It will make you more pleasant to be around because no one likes a Debbie Downer.

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