Are you finally tired of blending in and wanting to step into who you want to be? A lot of us wake up one day and realize we’ve put too much emphasis on conforming to whatever box the world is trying to put us in. We’ve become boring, doing exactly what is expected of us without considering if it feels true to us.
We’ve become carbon copies of each other and it makes sense that a lot of us would. We spend hours scrolling on social media looking for inspiration and connection and a lot of the same things are showing up on our feeds. The algorithms continue to show the same people sharing the same products and the same aesthetic. While that holds our attention, we often don’t stop to think if it’s just nice to look at or if we truly want that for ourselves.
If everyone has the same style, the same hobbies, the same haircut, and essentially the same thoughts the world becomes a pretty boring place. We crave newness and intrigue so seeing more and more of the same thing means you don’t stand out.
The good part is that you can decide to become more interesting whenever you want. It doesn’t mean that you have to stop scrolling entirely, but it does mean that you’ll have to introspect before making impulse purchases or life changes. You’ll eventually become obsessed with something that may or may not be mainstream, but lights you up. It’s not about doing something obscure so other people will notice that you’re going against the grain. It’s about taking advantage of the life you have and making the most of it, doing things that fill your cup.
If you want to break out of the norm, there are a few things to consider to get the ball rolling. Try a lot of them until you find what you love.
What Makes A Woman Interesting?
An interesting woman isn’t bored or idle for long periods of time. She’s in tune with herself so she can easily tap into her creativity. She’s passionate about and interested in a variety of topics giving her an air of sophistication. She’s also audacious and willing to put herself in a position to get what she wants. She’s not timid or indecisive.
How To Become an Interesting Woman
If you want to be more interesting you have to become more confident. You can’t have the audacity to go after your dream life without being confident in exactly who you are. There are plenty of ways to feel the internal calm that self-confidence brings but they don’t happen overnight. Here are a few ways to become more confident and thus more interesting.
1. Align your thoughts and actions with the most elevated version of your life.
If you don’t know or are unsure about what you want from life journaling might be good for you. If you’re consistent with it, over time you’ll start to see where you want to make improvements to your life and start to make changes.
2. Always be in the presence of beauty and things that are aesthetically pleasing.
We can’t always guarantee that we’ll be in beautiful environments, but we can always try to improve them. A clean space promotes a clear mind so if you can do nothing else keep your space tidy and clutter-free.
This also means that you should try to look your best all the time, even when you’re at home. The way you treat yourself when no one is watching tells you what you think is most important. If you only put effort into your appearance when you leave the house you’re telling yourself that you alone are not worth the effort. News flash…you are. So act like it.
3. Choose quality, creativity, and self-expression in all that you do.
Evaluate the quality of everything you touch, touches you, or that you are around. Getting high-quality material items like clothes, furniture, shoes, etc. takes time and money, but if you can you should choose to buy well and buy once. You’ll spend less over time because you’ve bought something you’ll keep for years and years. The good stuff holds up against wear and tear.
Look at the quality of your relationships. You are the sum of the five people you spend the most time with. Are these people aligned with the life you want? If they aren’t you might need to limit your interactions with them to step into the shoes of the woman you want to be.
4. Understand the importance of being curious and multi-faceted.
Being multifaceted means that you have many aspects or sides. Gemstones are usually cut to be multifaceted, with many angled flat surfaces. This increases their ability to reflect light. For you, this means that you need to have more than one aspect or interest. Interesting women know a little about a lot of topics and this makes them intriguing conversationalists. You don’t have to know everything, just enough to connect the dots between subjects and how to ask good questions.
To be knowledgeable about a wide variety of topics you have to be curious. Don’t take everything you read or see at face value. If something catches your attention go deeper!
5. Claim responsibility for your life.
Interesting women take ownership of their lives and after a certain age don’t blame don’t blame other people for their circumstances. Of course children don’t choose what family they’re born into or the opportunities that they can take advantage of, but once you become an adult your life is yours to mold.
6. Choose her inner voice over outer feedback.
Once you know what you want from life don’t let any naysayers try to steer you off course. If you’re doing something that your friends and family haven’t done before or don’t want for themselves they might give you advice that would keep you from moving forward. They may mean well and want to protect you, but do you want a sheltered life or an exciting one?
Don’t be dumb here. Make sure your decisions aren’t setting you up for failure, ruin, or in a dangerous situation. If people are urging you to proceed with caution it might be worth asking them more about why they think you should.
7. Have the audacity to be yourself at all times.
Don’t ever shrink yourself or dim your light, but don’t let yourself off the hook either. You still have to be a good person so there are times when you shouldn’t be loud or rambunctious. There is a time and a place for everything, but what’s important is that you don’t permanently try to change the things you love about yourself. You can learn to be more empathetic and compassionate because that makes you a better person.
The biggest key to being a more interesting woman is to be interested in yourself. Have your own thoughts, ideas, and passions aside from any external forces that may want you to tone down or be smaller. You are allowed to take up space and be the fullest version of yourself. Women who own that are always the most interesting lady in the room.
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